My daughter just entered that difficult stage where she wants her mother. She's fine when it's just me, but as soon as mom is near, she cries to be picked up. It's not that big a deal, and she's already starting to lighten up about it. The only time it was tough was at a party of my wife's friends. It was the first time I could not stop "bit girl" from crying in front of other people. I felt like a real bump on a log, because I was just standing around a lot.
What makes it upsetting is that it reflects the lack of support for Fathers in our society. Clothing racks are filled with "I love Mommy" clothes, and at best 1 "I Love Daddy" item. (Most upsetting for me was the Rock 'n' Roll marathon store. They had "Mom rocks" onesies, and nothing for the baby cheering on Dad.) And I've seen event listings that often assume baby always comes with Mom.
But it's the individuals that surprise me the most. Strangers love to tell you how she loves Mom best. And I've had her cousins, who range from 3-6 years old, question why I'm the one trying to calm a crying baby. And I'm the one who was hold my daughter calmly, surrounded by a room full of women who couldn't keep her quiet when I left.
But it's OK. I have two male friends who remind me how great I am with "Daddy's Little Girl". And my wife's friend tell her good thing about me, even if they won't do it to my face. And I'm not doing this for praise. And even though "little bit" cried to be held by Mommy when my wife walked up, when my wife left "bit" giggled as I lifted her up for kisses and a triceps workout. And a happy healthy baby is what I'm here for.
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